I still have a lot of self doubts at the moment. I know it’s not healthy and beneficial but I really can’t help it. I’ve been fighting it yet I can’t still win the war. Not at this point.
Not when I’m being weak;not when I’m scared and doing a lot of negative self talk and obviously not when I’m ranting all of my misery in writing and posting it for the whole world to see.
Therefore, I decided to stop. And start helping myself for real. I mean it this time.
Truly cease all the activities that don’t contribute with my well being. Bring to an end the whole lot that pulls me down. I don’t want to stay weak. I don’t want to be scared anymore. I just want to be okay. Wake up and feel good about many things in my life. Probably focus myself to more positivity than otherwise.
For what’s it worth, I think I only have myself that would help me endure and get through with this life.
Smiling would be a good start. It’s amazing what I can hide just by putting up a smile and plaster it on the face.
However, it may be frustrating to say the infamous “I’m Okay” line to preclude any further questioning. It’s also amusing to note how people conveniently accept that line. However, the most disappointing maybe is those people who you thought knows you well and supposedly know better than to believe such ambiguous line.
Nonetheless, at some point it’s easier when you don’t get into details of what you’re really thinking or feeling at the moment. Most people don’t really bother or understand.
I come across to realize that people, even friends, will not always be around. Not even those who said that they will always be there whenever. Everyone is too busy with their life. Enduring own tragedies and embracing delight.
It hurt me. I admit that it wounded some part of me (in a figurative way). In this time and age that serves no excuse anymore for lack of communication, I wonder why.
Maybe, it’s my fault. Perhaps it is best to just put the blame on myself. And perhaps, it’s best to put a distance this time. I’m not complaining anything about it. That’s just reality. I understand it all because that’s the least I could do.
One can only depend on one’s self and the man up there in heaven.
It may be best for me not to care as well. To those people who don’t really care. To those that hurt me. To things I cannot change and doesn’t mean me well.
Kamille Victoria S. Trinidad, March 2013
“For what it’s worth, it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you find the strength to start all over again.”
– Adapted from the Curious case of Benjamin Button
I think I already know the root of why I’m still in distress for the past couple of months since that incident. It is the reason why I can’t relax and be as happy before. The grounds as to why I don’t want to build any personal relationships anymore and I don’t let anyone near my heart again.
I’m keeping everyone out – including myself.
I cannot bring myself to trust anyone anymore. I lost faith in everything and everyone.
I isolated myself and I’m not letting anyone come close to me.
Sure, people will find it hard to believe that. Not with the smiles and happy disposition displayed. I am putting quite a show. I’ve been battling depression and anxiety alone. I’m putting too many boulders on my shoulder. I’m being too hard on myself and I know it.
To be honest, I’m not even sure how I’ll be able to give anyone my trust and more importantly how to give it to myself all over again. I guess after the series of events that I failed and disappointed my own self, I’m finding it hard to listen to that thing they called brain.
I told myself that I won’t think of unhappy things anymore. I vowed not to look back. I left everything in oblivion. But the thing is I haven’t made the first step. I’m still on that place when I told myself I needed to change my life. And I know why.
The pain of the past still haunts me. It is the one that holds me back to get myself started towards the best life I deserve. I’m scared that if I make a move, I’ll get hurt again. I fear for the worst.
I know I’m fighting one of the toughest battles of my life - that is to have a life. Rebuild what was shattered before or create an indestructible one.
I’ve been telling myself that when you want to change your life, it is not enough to keep all the plans on doing so inside that head. Start acting on it. No one’s going to do it for you. It’s either you’re going to do it or not. Stop making excuses.
And when you decide to do it, mean it. You’re not fooling anyone but yourself if you are still the way you are from the time you decided to such time that change should have happened already.
I know I’m still fooling myself as of this writing. If not, I won’t bother writing this. I just hope it’s true that it will never be too late and I still have enough time.
Kamille Victoria S. Trinidad, February 2013
The Path with No Definite Direction
“Kam, there are some walks you have to take alone”, a friend told me months ago,”whether it is a good path or not, you’ll find out yourself. “
I could substantiate that the friend who told me that is not a seer or his family has those kind of abilities having known that person for quite some time. Perhaps, that person is just preparing me for the things that will come my way and no one could help me face it. No one can, only me.
Bravery. That person thought I should have a lot of it along the way. The least that person could do for me is be a shoulder to cry on; a person whom I could rant everything from the philosophical questions of life to the most trivial and nonsense stuffs that my brain just decided to pick on; and the friend who will cheer me up. But that’s all that he ever could be.
I’m not sure whether that person was talking about what I had been enduring for the past months until now but it sure feels like it. No matter how my heart and my hypothalamus shatter into pieces (and maybe my sanity in a little while), I could only tolerate the emotions that goes with it and perhaps learn to pay no heed to it. I can’t give up. Not even when I am far away from my comfort zone. This may probably be the journey and part of my life I could tell to inspire people and be of hope to them.
Whatever the purpose may be, the least I could do is deal with it. I may not understand the depths of reason that comes with it right now but I will. Soon enough I hope. Besides, I’ve got people who will always support and give me love. That reason is enough to keep me going and face whatever comes my way.
Kamille Victoria S. Trinidad, January 2013
Banoffee pie treat from Kuya Patrick. :) Made my birthday super sweet. Thaannnkks kuya! :) #2decadesand2
I think they know well that PINK = KAMILLE. Well, the dried mangoes don’t count. Lol :) #2decadesand2
Friends, you know where to deliver this next week :) Give me some love, okay? <3 Hahaha :D #tljcake
Thank you for a super early birthday celebration @SelectedShe. I’m really grateful I have you girls in my life :D #TCB